You're his wife not his treatment team. Treat him as an equal don't tell him what he can and cannot do even when he is sick. That just causes fights. Now if he's a danger you absolutely have the right to remove yourself from the situation. I have a therapist I see weekly and a psychiatrist. My husband has permission to call my therapist for help if needed. He also attends my psychiatrist meetings.

I believe that bipolar is chemical imbalance which can only be helped by medicine. Therapy is 4 getting used to the new normal and guiding us through the episode we still have . I think it may be useful for you to get therapy to because burn out is a real thing. I can't give career advice. However my son is looking at working for himself in the future. So that if he has an episode he can take time off. I think first and foremost he needs to get better for a length of time before deciding on Big career moves. He should be allowed friends and everything else a normal healthy adult should have.