Dear devinegirl43,

I am sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine how awful it must be. I was helped a lot by seeing a psychotherapist. Sometimes it takes a lot of time to learn coping skills. A psychotherapist can often not only be there for you through the process but also offer you things to try. Sometimes it can help to aim at progress rather than achievement. What I mean is that it is hard to go from not having ways of dealing with a situation and then having 100% control over it. Sometimes we have to go slowly and step by step. In dealing with narcissism one can aim to improve things 1% one day and then strive to improve things 2% another day and so on. Sometimes one has to take baby steps. There are often setbacks. This can be difficult to do on one's own although there are self-help books available that often prove helpful. A therapist can sort of be there for a person as they navigate this process. Maybe you are already doing this. I don't know the whole story. In any case, I do hope you find solutions that are really helpful to you. So sorry I don't have the experience, knowledge and insight to be helpful to you. You deserve a life where you can have some peace of mind and joy of living!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen