Been there, done that. Emotionally and mentally abusive people DO NOT CHANGE. Get out and get on with your life.
Don't be fooled by "reforms". They are a temporary tool to get you in line with what they want. To suck you back in. Like a Hoover. That's why they call it "hoovering".
It's ALWAYS about what they want. And they'll do or say *anything* to make that happen. Am I right?
My heart goes out to you. I know the pain and conflicting emotions all too well.
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Makes me sick to the heart, Oh I feel so tired. And the way the rain comes down hard, that's how I feel inside.
--The Cure