If you would be more comfortable with a woman that is important. I have been in therapy a long time with a lot of different therapists and, at first, I needed them to be women too. Now I work with a male T (and do art therapy with a woman) and he is great... but I had to be comfortable with it first.

It is pretty normal not to get into much the first session or two depending on the T and how they are trained. Most of the time the first session is paperwork and dis usding goals and expectations. Just like any relationship you need to give it a little time to develop. If you still are not connecting or getting what you need after a few sessions mention it to your T. They may adjust to work with you better or be able to refer you to someone that would be a better match.