I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are going through this. People often use the term "functional alcoholic" but what does that mean exactly? To me there is nothing functional about an alcoholic. I am an alcoholic and have been sober for years and even on my "good days" in the past, in hindsight I would never say I was actually functional.This man is dangerous. Do you have any children together? Does he have kids? It is only a matter of time that he will go from smacking food out of your hand to smacking you.