thanks everyone... its getting worse. hes been really vicious lately when hes angry at me...he threatened to destroy my life today...he came home on his lunch break and *****ed at me for like an hour straight...mocked everything i said and did and called me about 100 names. slammed things around. yelled. made me cry like 3 times. i try to be articulate and logical and not super emotional but it seems like he twists everything i say to make it sound like im a horrible, cold-hearted sociopath. he takes things in ways i never meant them. i am so confused, emotionally fried. he basically says that everything is my fault and that our life would be great if i wasnt such a ****. im so exhausted.