. “I consider it extremely unethical, teenagerish, and wrong“

^so do I.

It’s good character to keep what others confide in you in confidence. It’s bad character to talk smack about others behind their backs.

That said, In general, be careful what you confide in others. Everything you say can and will be used against you.

There are people who earn trust that I have no doubts have been true to me. I’ve only had PMs with a few other members. All have been supportive. I didn’t say anything that I wouldn’t want getting back to anyone else even though I didn’t think it would.