@jrae Yes, those kind of comments tend to drain the energy level and basically everything nice from ones mind. Must be hard to hear it from your own family. Curling up under a blanket is my go to strategy,too. Hope it gives you enough comfort to recharge.
What makes these comments even harder to deflect is that they are similar to the comments my self hatred constantly makes me think. Which makes me believe in them even more... and down the rabbit hole I go.
And just as @yaitso I have realized I need self love to heal these wounds... but so far all my attempts are merely that.
And maybe we really need to get angry. Not to bite back at them. But maybe to fight the aftermath of their thoughtless garbage? Although... what do I know my anger and energy dwindles away faster than I can react.