Dear raging vortex,
How awful. I don't think medical people should have a "hopeless" attitude. I can't see how that would be helpful. The first principle of medicine is: "First, do no harm." Trying to take away a person's hope, I think, is damaging not only to the mind, but also to the body. Just my opinion.
I am so sorry that happened to you.
Sincerely yours, Yao Wen