You are welcome to pick whats left of my brain !!! ha ha

I'm glad the school is already on board and is being helpful - that is wonderful. Your daughter is very lucky to have you so willing to help and be supportive.

I can tell you that it does get better and easier .. don't give up - that little guy needs everyone to do all they can.

The sensory interventions worked well for us. I put a small trampoline in the living room (my mom was aghast - oh well) and my son would bounce while talking - it helped ground him. And then we would count one - two -three - catch and I would through a soft ball to him and then he would throw it back. Somehow - this routine worked for him. And then whenever he would be really wild - not angry but just wild, I would direct him to the trampoline. After a while he would just go there by himself. My living room wasn't a great place to have company over, but it was a great place for my son. And that was what mattered. We also got a big thera ball and would roll the ball on my son's back for deep presure - which was calming for him. All these techniques we learned from an Occupational therapst who was trained with sensory integration intervention techniques.

My son liked to build tents or caves in the house. For some reason, it was comforting for him to burrow in. And so I allowed that because it was helpful for him. These kids will seek out their own comfort, sometimes they need us adults to help them find it and get there.

The pychologist helped us with positive behavior charts that really made a difference. For my son, getting a candy was a big deal and so we used that. Earn so many stickers at school for having safe hands & feet... get a sucker. and so on. Never waste a trip to the ice cream store - it is always a celebration for some accomplishment big or small.

Good luck with the IEP meeting at school. You might inquire about social skills training opportunities offered at school. Often, kids with behavior issues really benefit from having the social cues practiced and practiced and practiced. Better they practice in the safety of a social skills group led by a knowledgable speech language therapst or other trained adult than to try practicing on the playground.