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Originally Posted by Lostislost
Thank you, that's kind of you to say that there's nothing wrong with me for feeling it. Sometimes he has these moments where I feel like he must love me? But then it breaks down pretty quick when I try to go there.
I feel a bit foolish, as he has refused to hug me previously even though he said he does hug some clients. So I should've taken the hint already maybe. I was not expecting any of this, but I suppose none of us were really.
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He told you he hugs other clients whilst refusing to hug you? Ouch. Refusing to hug you is one thing, but telling you he hugs other clients sounds cruel. I don't know the context but I'm struggling to believe that is in any way acceptable.
Many therapists feel positive acceptance for their clients but not all like to use the word 'love.' It really depends on what love means to you and your T so an open discussion about it would be helpful, IF your T is able to put aside his own reservations.
How is your relationship with him normally? Does he listen, is he kind, empathic, accepting?