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Originally Posted by Lonelyinmyheart
He told you he hugs other clients whilst refusing to hug you? Ouch. Refusing to hug you is one thing, but telling you he hugs other clients sounds cruel. I don't know the context but I'm struggling to believe that is in any way acceptable.
Many therapists feel positive acceptance for their clients but not all like to use the word 'love.' It really depends on what love means to you and your T so an open discussion about it would be helpful, IF your T is able to put aside his own reservations.
How is your relationship with him normally? Does he listen, is he kind, empathic, accepting?
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I wrote him a letter one Christmas and said I really felt like hugging him when I saw him. Then when I saw him, he said that he does hug clients sometimes, but not me, and implied it would be too risky. I don't know why it's risky to touch me (this was before covid 19), he didn't really give an answer. I think because of my past, I'm too damaged for him to touch.
That happened a year and a half ago and nothing has been said about it. He could use covid as the no touching reason forever now, wonder if he's glad about that.
Yes he is usually kind and does listen to me, he has helped me for sure. Things have changed a lot this year though. There's other things I don't want to mention publicly as people might think it's gone too far or see major red flags
