My sister and I are both in our early 20’s, we both live at home, due to financial constraints. We have always fought with one another throughout our lives. Though we have had stages of cordial behaviour. This doesn’t last too long.

However, over the last two years my sister has pulled back from me entirely and does not seem to want to associate with me. Why do I say this?

- She does not bother with me anymore.
- She ignores most of my text messages.
- We used to occasionally go out to the cinema or for fast food, that does not happen now.
- She has deleted me from Facebook.
- She makes a point of rarely being in our house.

Basically her schedule is work, work, work. I think this is to get away with from us as a family, as she stays out to 11pm and often works two shifts which is abnormal in my eyes.

She does not disclose much of her own life with our family. I have no idea if she is in a relationship or has been in a relationship. I can definitely see her being in a relationship and not telling any of us.

It has crossed my mind that she may be LGBT as she has never talked about liking any man and has said that she does not care for relationships. That may be true but this has crossed my mind, due to her secrecy and the fact that one of her friends is transgender.

Recently, she was supposed to have graduated. We have each asked her for her degree results, she continually tells us that she has not got them. Again, I am now wondering if she has dropped out or failed. I have her a gift and she thanked me but did not seem to care.

She does not seem to want to have a relationship with me, even a cordial relationship. She seems to be indifferent to me. I would say that she has basically cut me off and is only in our home for sleep. I respect she wants privacy but is it not too much of an ask for her to at least talk to or bother with me once a month or so?

It hurts me that I am her brother, but she wants nothing to do with me and seems to have this built up resentment towards me for no real reason.