It really sounds like T2 might not be right for you. Not because she's female, but because she's inexperienced, more focused on addiction, and doesn't seem particularly open to taking feedback from you on what works. Plus her relationship to T1. You've only seen her a few times and have already had a couple major conflicts. It sounds sort of like T1 is almost forcing her on you.


Could you see if there's another female T in your area that you could try maybe? Or...maybe not even a T. This might be more difficult with Covid, but you do art, so what about, say, an art class with a female instructor? Or some other sort of class? If you *do* want to keep seeing T2, I think the three of you should meet.