Hi, it is sad...is positive that you are contemplating taking action, though. I don't have a good experience of ending a friendship, only a bad one, and it was for similar reasons...misery does love company!..unfortunately! Recently I made some...resolutions about what I expect from, and offer my friends, and which behaviours would lead me to distance myself. I won't count someone as a friend if they steal my thunder, undermine my endeavours or salt my wounds. I would ask a friend to help me celebrate my successes, offer support and encouragement in my endeavours, and offer comfort and kind words in troubled times, and that's how I aim to relate.

I think if you have tried to communicate your needs/expectations, and if you're being ignored then it might be the kindest thing just to explain that your feelings have been hurt and you can no longer be a friend to her.

I have explained to a friend recently that I can't be a friend to him at the minute...it's been difficult as I know he is having a tough time, but he is acting out in various ways, not taking care or advice, and I was getting resentful and unsettled. He didn't take it very well, but I think we'll be friends again, when he's made amends and all's forgiven.

I think sometimes it's harder to let go than give up...but it's often a kindness to let someone go and wish them well
I hope it makes life lighter and brighter

K