She’s been good about it. The first time we talked, she told me she has issues in her life also. When I said I was jealous of her life, she said she lives a different life, but not necessary better. She did not respond, i.e. did not confirm or deny that she is divorced or that she has a new man in her life. (I told her I assumed she was separated or divorced because she is no longer wearing her engagement or wedding rings, and every time I’ve seen a married woman no longer wearing their rings, it turned out she was getting divorced). She said I was projecting on to her feelings from something else (my sexless marriage?). The next time we met, she started out by making it clear that we don’t talk about her life. This is my therapy. After that, she was good about talking with me about my transference issues. I’m now feeling a little bit of shame that I pried into her personal life.