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Originally Posted by eclairparty98
Hello PC  I wish wellness for you all, be safe.
I'm looking for suggestions on how to respectfully, sensitively and thoughtfully end an unhealthy friendship. Unfortunately, after giving this much thought, there is absolutely no possibility of a hopeful alternative, the friendship must come to an end.
I value the friendly support she has provided me at times. She knew she could always talk to me too about her challenges, all of which I supported her through, trying the best I could to make sure she was as happy as she could be.
Unfortunately. I've sadly come to realise she is often judgmental, passive aggressive, confrontational and someone who seems to not want others to be happy or at least not before she is happy first. I have many examples of this.
It is really hard for me to explain the situation delicately without sounding extremely upset, bitter and bias. I have thought about this for a long time and am finally ready to act. I do not want to upset her in any way and wish to end this maturely and without any stress or conflict.
I am sorry for such a negative post.  |
I support you ending this toxic friendship. It is not a negative post at all.
It sounds like you have a very one-sided friendship with her, which is what makes it toxic to your well-being. She has no interest in your emotional needs or being accountable for her behavior with you, as she acts this way with others in her social network.
People like your friend are charmers, and they attract a wide social network of people around them, because they are extremely adept at "managing" people without ever really having to participate in the connection.
They never really give people an authentic connection, b/c that's not what they want. Some people put up with this kind of abuse and toxicity b/c it brings them social connections or professional opportunities. So, they overlook the fact that this person isn't really emotionally invested in them as a real friend would be.
I know these types all too well. They are great talkers and salesmen/women and can talk a good game.
Severe your connection to all of her social media accounts.
You can call her and tell her you are ending the friendship and why. Or, you can send her a text or online message. It will be stressful but you know its for the best.