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Old Sep 06, 2020, 12:11 PM
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Some people like to get off on other's misery , pain, etc and some times one may feel hopelessness with dealing with these types in life. It can be difficult to remember this let alone accept it. In the end we have OUR CHOICES.

Different "tactics "/coping/actions with the people in life that we have interactions with that trigger us can very to each person and individual and situation.

Through out my life I met my share, personal and work and out in the world.
NO CONTACT only works for some of them..
However for some it's getting legal involved, because they are restless...

some it's trying best to limit interactions with

different approaches depending on the situation, the person and how the individual is doing. It's always learning, slipping some times, etc.
At least for me, there hasn't been a one and only answer for all.

Some people's advice works, other times it is unhelpful. Some times I have to dig deep in me to find what I need if I can. There's some days this only takes a moment and other times - well I've wondered- if months or that I buried a piece that just adds another layer. But thats me.

Fuzzybear,
Some people are -- i Don't know what term to use- some people say toxic, damaged, broken, -- i think today i like the term we all have our own struggles and battles- even if One may be unaware of those battles... for example a person that violates others boundaries constantly and they believe they don't do any wrong, doesn't mean that they themselves don't have a struggle- they just may not be truly aware of it to have the capacity to comprehend
the full situation.
Or some- they themselves have just lost any comprehensive thoughts with others rights-- which in this world is a struggle even if they Don't realize it.
Yes some of these types of people make it big in the world they climb, manipulate, and so on....
It sucks.

We have a choice though, do we play the game with them? Do we some how defeat them? , do we take them out ? do we try to move on with what we can learn from this? Do we hold this interaction as once again being hurt and define a piece of life, ourselves, them, etc.? And I am sure there's countless other choices and also MULTIPLE choices can be applied.

You have a life, this is life, and not every thing is so easy to just get over, no contact, some times we have to work through it... and that can be difficult.

It's hard some times for some, I have this issue.
I am sorry for the babble and with it a different opinion that's probably not helpful but many hugs and well thoughts.
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