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Originally Posted by Bill3
With regard to entering your apartment: Is there something in the lease that addresses what notice they must give in order to enter? One option would be, in the future, to just be mindful of whatever is required, and be prepared to say no if those conditions are not met.
With regard to asking her to please not yell at you: It sounds like you handled things really well in the moment.  In reading your description of the event, I see that when she yelled you walked away. It seems from what you wrote above that you got across to her that she shouldn't yell at you: She became nice and then gentle and conversational. So one way to look at the situation is that you already, in a skillful and effective way, have made your point about not being yelled at. |
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Bill3 Thank you so much for this. You know, I hadn't even thought of that, that I *did* assert myself already. And she did take notice due to her changed behavior. I don't know why there was such a bee in my bonnet about this, so to speak. I think maybe moving twice has just been stressful and I will chalk it up to that.
Yes, I reread the agreement I signed and they are supposed to give 24 hrs notice unless its an emergency. @
unaluna perhaps they did view it as an emergency. I do not know. Or maybe they thought that I thought it was. Not sure. Thanks for your perspective / input.
I think I'm just gonna drop it and if they enter again without giving me notice, and its not an emergency, I will ask then, at that time, for notice next time.
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Discombobulated yeah I really need to give myself lots of self care. Feed myself, sleep, etc, too. With these 2 moves, I plowed through and was like "I'm just doing it." And was kind of proud of how I've been handling things despite the 2 moves. I think though, I need to also honor and respect, so to speak, the fact that life major changes bring on stress. Doesn't matter who you are. I'm not immune to that as much as I want to think I am lol.