The first two are shocking to me (ok, I’ve been described as too sensitive too). 1) You got assaulted, basically, and if the guy wouldn’t find it funny for someone to do it to him, he shouldn’t think it’s ok for it to happen to you either.
2) again, you’re not sensitive for feeling afraid in that situation. You didn’t know what she intended to do (I’m thinking up to no good and trying to get you on side, so to speak, by doing shots with you).
3) on the fence. It isn’t important in the grand scheme of things but it’s never nice to lose something or have it stolen. Seems like a weird thing on your ‘friend’s’ part to keep bringing up for months, too. Glad you found it and apologised for your mistake, though.
4) sounds like she assaulted you for her own pleasure. Nasty. Of course she’d also spin a lie to her son to make you look bad - I’d be majorly pissed off by that. Did you ever get him to understand what actually happened?
I agree they’re all insensitive, I think people like this get a kick out of upsetting people and then blaming the other person for being upset. I believe that’s called blame shifting? Sensitive people are an easy target for them. Most of them would back down against those who were colder/tougher to crack etc. It’s on them, though, not you.