Could it be that they are needing this info to aide in their own healing? I see it is a positive in the right direction... Of course it will be very difficult and emotional and anger will be apart of that journey... but in the end truth is often better than what the mind usually imagines... I can understand where you are coming from too... not wanting to add to any of their pain... ((hugs))) I agree maybe your T can help you and your sons with this process...