I've made a decision. After trying everything to help my son I need to take care of me before I get so depressed I can't do anything for him. He makes up excuses, yes it's a tough life, I've encouraged him, helped him financially, kept a roof over his head, sought professional help, hes on a waiting list. I'll pay for a room for one month where we looked or he has to call these shelters himself for help. I had to call a crisis line for me this morning. I'm finally realizing theres not much more I can do as he refused to go to work. He hears me on the line and decides to go. Then he takes a wrong bus.. I e transfer money for a taxi.. but this cant go on. He'll never learn if I do things for him. I cant live like this. Thanks for the hugs everyone