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Old Sep 08, 2020, 11:10 AM
fern46 fern46 is offline
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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear View Post
Hey fern, I get triggered too by some of the things you mention, which I also love. I like the idea of working them back into your (and my) life, but maybe with less intensity. My brain does crave stimulation and higher thought. I find practical chores (and very mundane conversations with ''normal'' people, especially those who are also very lacking in empathy and judgmental ) very triggering and also I dislike them grrr (who doesn't sometimes I guess... my dislike is extreme though and related to trauma grrr)

I hear you on mundane chores. I was feeling down about spending so much of my time on that sort of thing a while back. My brother helped me put it into perspective though. He encouraged me to focus on the value and the service I was offering for myself and my family. That helped me to turn around my feelings. I also started listening to podcasts or shows or whatever while working to help the time pass more easily. Sometimes I make it a game to see how fast I can do it or if I can turn it into exercise somehow.

I am sometimes triggered by judgmental people or people with low empathy, but I'm also trying to look at that differently. I considered there are people who must feel it is violating that I can read their emotions so deeply. They must feel judged that I can see. I certainly do not always enjoy it when my insides are on display. Anyway, thinking about that has helped me remember to put some distance between myself and others. I don't need to always read people. I started as a defense mechanism as a child, but now I am safe and strong. I can just let people be and when I do I find they are less judgy in return. It is hard though, because it is a deeply instinctive habit at this point.

Thanks Fuzzy for both of your posts. You are very kind
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Thanks for this!
bpcyclist, Fuzzybear