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Originally Posted by RoxanneToto
The first two are shocking to me (ok, I’ve been described as too sensitive too). 1) You got assaulted, basically, and if the guy wouldn’t find it funny for someone to do it to him, he shouldn’t think it’s ok for it to happen to you either.
2) again, you’re not sensitive for feeling afraid in that situation. You didn’t know what she intended to do (I’m thinking up to no good and trying to get you on side, so to speak, by doing shots with you).
3) on the fence. It isn’t important in the grand scheme of things but it’s never nice to lose something or have it stolen. Seems like a weird thing on your ‘friend’s’ part to keep bringing up for months, too. Glad you found it and apologised for your mistake, though.
4) sounds like she assaulted you for her own pleasure. Nasty. Of course she’d also spin a lie to her son to make you look bad - I’d be majorly pissed off by that. Did you ever get him to understand what actually happened?
I agree they’re all insensitive, I think people like this get a kick out of upsetting people and then blaming the other person for being upset. I believe that’s called blame shifting? Sensitive people are an easy target for them. Most of them would back down against those who were colder/tougher to crack etc. It’s on them, though, not you.
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Hi, thanks for your reply. I knew I wasn't being to sensitive and they were just being nasty and thoughtless. That guy friend might've also been taking out his anger and frustration out on me. I also think he got mad at me since he was jealous of me. He was struggling with money and he told me that I have it easy since my husband takes care of me.
He really hurt and disappointed me. I'll probably talk more about him in a future thread. The crazy bartender was weird! She was nice at first, but maybe you're right. She didn't try to rob me. She just followed me back to the hotel. My former female friend always thought she had excellent judgement since she is a psychiatric nurse.
She doesn't as she was robbed at her apartment when she let a homeless woman stay there. She lost jewelery..She was bipolar but medicated, but arrogant. She had no respect for my boundaries. She seemed nice at first, but she'd do whatever she felt like it with no regards to my feelings.
As for the friend who kept on nagging me about the necklace, she had a very bad habit or repeating herself and she liked to use that as one example of how I tend to "overreact' to things. She was very judgmental and she lacked empathy at times.
My MIL was a monster. She never liked me since I didn't try to kiss her butt and the fact that I'm American and not from her country. She is a queen bee type.
All of these people seemed like nice normal people at first, and then they changed and started to become mean once they could see that I didn't always want to do what they expected of me or when I disagreed with them on something.
Are there any red flags to look out for so I don't end up being a victim again? Maybe I shouldn't open up to people to quickly and get to know them better first?
You're right about what you said. It does seem like sensitive people are easy targets for these sickos. They're lucky that I didn't call the cops in most of the above situations. I regret not doing so. I wasn't thinking straight. Especially after drinking, ugh.