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sarahsweets · Sep 09, 2020, 06:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Ladytmt

Thanks for your response and congrats on your sobriety. Functional is a tricky term. He works a full time job so maybe thats the “functional” part for him BUT there are problems at work. He has damaged machines. Gotten in trouble for being on his phone etc. and did not take responsibility for any of this he blamed everything he’s been talked to by management on someone else . He gets mad very quickly as well so in essence i guess this really isn’t functional.I truly believe alcohol isn’t enough for him at times and that he has been abusing drugs as well. He won’t admit to it though and gets defensive if questioned about it. As if alcohol isn’t shameful but drugs are. We don’t have kids together but he has 2 kids that he never spends time with all he does is send them money. Dangerous is right. My biggest fear is he will drive drunk and kill someone. He has no problem getting behind the wheel and driving recklessly drunk. He always thinks he’s ok to drive and will. There were times i’ve had to drive back from somewhere with him passed out in the passenger seat because he’s too messed up to drive.

I'm not trying to make you uncomfortable or hammer you over things that are beyond your control but it really is up to you to call the police and report him for driving drunk every single time you see him leave the house with keys in his hands after you know he's been drinking. It'll be horrible if He hurt or killed somebody driving drunk. I know you are not his keeper but if you know he's been drinking and isn't fit to drive you have to call every time. It doesn't matter if he gets arrested 1,000,000 times eventually he will get caught but you need to help that happen. In some states bars that continue to serve alcohol to a drunk person or let them leave the premises knowing they will drive are responsible for any accidents they make cause. I know that's not the case with you it's certainly isn't your problem but think about how somebody might feel if he hurt them and somebody could have stopped him by calling the police. You may feel guilty about it and Hi my beg you to not call the police or leave in a huff and then get mad when you do. He is breaking a law he is a danger on the road way and there's nothing more to be said about it.