Wow, Rhapsody, that description of the commitmentphobe is an exact description of my husband. Down to the letter! We have been together over 20 years and are getting divorced--I just couldn't take it any longer. Reading that description made me feel really sorry for him. What an impoverished life those people lead.

buckyyuck, you and your girl could get some relationship counseling. In just a few sessions you could learn some valuable communication skills.

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i really can't complain about her leaving because i've done the same thing to her so why should i expect her to give me a courtsey that in 2 years i never showed her

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">It's not that she wasn't giving you a courtesy. She had already made other plans for an evening with friends. It wouldn't have been right to stand them up and break her date with them in order to talk to you. Next time, you could say something like, "Hey, I know you're on your way out right now. Could we talk about this sometime later this weekend? It's important to me that we work these communication glitches out so we can get along better. Have a good time!"