It sounds like T’s way of validation might be too much adding to your dis regulation. Could you get a box or other container, ask T to write your fears as you share them and put them in the box for safe keeping until something can be done? ONE fear per paper kept as short and precise as possible. Then, when you are ready you can take ONE out and talk about what you can do to control the anxiety? For example, one I can relate to is the increase in violence. My H and I moved from a dangerous part of town to a very safe, small community with low crime and most crime being petty crime by bored teens. Now we are seeing both organized and violent crime. Recently a neighbor was badly hurt in a break in and it upset me. I looked at what they did and realized they pulled their car all the way into his driveway and parked it. So I put a saw horse at the end of my drive each night. It is only a minor deterrent but I sleep better knowing I have done one small thing to be safer.
It also sounds, by the examples you are sharing, that your anxiety may be an expression of compassion fatigue... like you feel everyone’s feelings, understand all sides (may not agree but understand and feel for them) and it wears you out? So rather than talking to T about the anxieties it might help to talk to T about strategies for coping with compassion fatigue and then you don’t have to talk about the specific stresses.