The outcome in my relationships (I’m single now) will never change unless I stop chasing. I never let him pursue (for long) so he will take me foregranted and I feel depleted having to be the one to contact him and make plans more than half the time (my ex did ask at times). So guys lose interest in me quickly because since i am making things too easy, they don’t value me...I would start letting him initiate but then I would give in.