12 years is a long time not to have his act together. Good for you moving out.

Personally I don’t cohabitate with anyone who doesn’t have a consistent gainful employment. I am no one’s sugar mama. There is no lack of jobs out there. Sure people can’t always have jobs they enjoy but there are always jobs.

Sure one can rely on others or on welfare or charity but most people don’t want partners of that sort. I am also an artist, I exhibit in pretty large scale art shows and occasionally sell but it remains a hobby as it doesn’t pay bills. It’s great to have creative things like that but one got to eat. So him being an artist doesn’t explain or excuse his lack of desire to contribute. I’d move on and don’t look back.

It’s sad but you spent enough time and resources on carrying this man. Enough is enough