Ugh, I'm so sorry that she ended up reacting that way. I don't feel like you crossed a line at all. This is about her, not about you--her inability to handle these sort of feelings from a client. I agree that you should find a new therapist on your own instead of using her referrals. Maybe try to find someone psychodynamic, as they're more trained in that. I suggest asking them early on how they handle client transference, too. And also that you'll want to talk about a past therapy experience--would they feel comfortable with that?


Again, I'm really sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find someone to work through this with.