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Originally Posted by swimmingly
I struggle with this question. I think its a great question. Like fern46, I was raised by my mother to be positive. Maybe obsessively positive. In the first few weeks with my new therapist we have been exploring trauma, and youth, and how I remember this positivism as strained and dare I say it, manic.
Something I don't remember from my youth is feeling that this positive energy has sincerity with it, and as I left my youth and grew into adolescence... it seemed to be something that was missing like the tin man's heart.
I struggle with being a positive person. I can't seem to do this properly. I can usually help others find positives in their situations, but to find it in mine is not an easy situation. It's something I'm working on with my therapist. We've got a lot of damage to hunt down and I need to work on.
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Hunting down damage and working on it is beneficial and positive in my book even if it leads you through dark paths.
Forced positivism. That's an excellent term for what I was taught. It is disingenuous and strains the heart which always knows the truth. That's why I decided it is positive to be true to myself even in anger, fear, sadness or whatever. If I let it flow and allow it without getting caught up in It, it passes and I can get back to those genuine positive feels. If I ignore it, I feel like a liar and the negativity compounds on itself. It makes me feel less real.
Its funny. I work with my mom now to get her to just be honest. She has held so much in it's nuts. Her dam broke a few times and she's learning how to let things flow naturally now. I'm proud of her.