Possible trigger (I hope it isn't a trigger, that isn't my intention)
If you have an ''inner cub'' (or more than one maybe..) do you do anything positive or kind for that cub? Something that illness or trauma or (childhood emotional or other) neglect may have robbed that cub of?
And does your cub have any specific triggers? I'm not suggesting you name them. (unless you want to).. I (my cub) has several, I just read one now (not one that many know about ...)
My cub is very young. I think the therapy didn't help her much at all as she struggled to ''speak'' (with a not so trustworthy therapist) and no play therapy or any innovative therapy was offered. Apparently IFS is offered now even in this forest by some therapists. I'm not sure about it. It might be confusing and triggering. (for one thing)
I have heard of a therapist doing IFS (inner family systems) who ''encouraged'' someone's inner cub to ''grow up'' to 4 years old in one session. (a very ''new'' therapist to that person) I have no idea how that would work if the cub is younger due to very early trauma. I suspect it would not actually ''work'' especially in one session, but maybe that is me.
I sometimes wonder if those in other forums and at work who were.... less than kind... to me were not in ''touch'' with their ''inner cub''.. of course it could have been something else entirely. Some people are just jerks. Not anyone here. I particularly do not like forced, fake positivity (someone trying to force someone else to be ''fake positive'' as I think someone said in the other thread)
The family of origin were very deceitful. I didn't have much real data to work with
The other thread on positivity partly sparked some of these thoughts. I was ''encouraged'' to be positive and also ''passive''... it made life much easier for them..) I don't think I had a ''choice'' really as things like being pushed
happened when I was not passive, obedient, quiet, compliant, pleasant, overly ''clean'..unquestioning...
I question different styles of therapy. I question how some of them are trained (I'm not in the usa)
Now my eyes are streaming and I am not crying.