I tend to question therapy in which the therapist digs and digs and digs for trauma where there might not even be any. I think it can be dangerous in that once we have defined ourselves as having been abused/having suffered great trauma, it utterly changes how we see ourselves, our world and those around us. I think therapists should tread lightly and allow patients to bring forth what they need to and not define too neatly what is shared.

That said, I did have a therapist who told me that something was abuse which was blatantly so and which I had always remembered but rarely thought about. I mean I hadn't considered it abuse because I just never categorized it as anything in my head. I didn't even dislike the person who perpetrated such a heinous act and in fact, idealized him. In my case, I needed to recognize it as such to come to any sort of healing from it. It affects my relationship with this person to this day, but at least now I understand why it always has, in one way or another.

Thank you for bringing this up, Fuzzy. It is, indeed, a very vulnerable topic, but I am glad that such things can be shared here, I hope it won't be moved.