I was disconnected from my inner cub even when I was a child. I ignored her because she experienced painful things that scared her. As an adult, I had no idea she was even in there until it all came to blows one night. My inner cub was very angry for being shoved aside for all that time. She wanted to be heard. I listen now.

I had never heard of the IFS system, but I instinctively did something similar on my own. It made sense for me to help my inner cub heal by reaching out to her as a mother, a sister, a healthy cub and a friend. I don't need her to grow up. I love her and accept her, scars and all. But... She won't be driving anymore. She's way too young for that