Last year my husband of 26 years went through a very dark depression. There were days when he struggled to get out of bed. Out of the blue he told me he wanted a divorce. (He now has zero recollection of that). We do not have children. About six months ago he got really dark and told me that he’s asked me for separation twice. He then started saying he feels like he just needs to get away for a week or so to get his head straight. I told him I don’t want him to go but I am not stopping him. He’s been in therapy for over a year now. About three months ago he rented a place in an area where we used to frequently vacation and have talked about moving. He didn’t tell me he was looking. He moved out two months ago. He told me this is not about our marriage, not a divorce, but is just a time for him to heal. I don’t suspect it’s an affair, and he hasn’t got a fancy car. He pretty much just stays in the apartment. He invited me last weekend for a visit. It was really awkward. We got along for the most part. He was loving and we were intimate. While he was extremely angry at me last year during has a depression, I only saw glimmers of that anger. Well we were having breakfast on the last day I was there, he told me to quit my job and move out there with him. On a sidenote, he’s been hyper focused about racism and is on Twitter tweeting about it so much. I am in therapy as well. I’ve asked him to do therapy with me and he told me before he left that living apart is the only was he will do therapy. We have not started. I’m just wondering if this is a midlife crisis or something more. I just don’t know what to do. I am really struggling.