I don't like this -- that she turns any issue you have with her around on you to be YOUR problem. That is deflection. She continues to take no responsibility for her own actions, and that leaves you with no validation, no voice, and no power within the relationship. She has all the power and control -- and you are left with no voice in the relationship.

I think it says something that she wore a more revealing dress out with her girlfriends -- the same old story -- she's looking for attention and validation from other men.

Any luck with couples therapy?