hmmm.... I think that if somebody takes it upon themselves to judge another human being and say ''you can't work'' they could, possibly, be wrong.

I feel like a ''failure'' too because I had panic attacks at school and not many class mates liked me. I did pass the exams though (parents would have thrown me out if I did not)

At 17 I was branded ''a failure'' as I was sacked from a horrible job in a hotel (far away from the ''family'' home... that was what they wanted...) I cannot think of a job less suited to that bear cub I still was I was smart but NOT practical... I hadn't even been taught how to wash up And I failed most of the practicals in my science A levels ... quite spectacularly, (mostly due to panic and anxiety) but still got good grades somehow

In order to ''get over'' the past, it helps to have someone who really listens, whether this is a good friend or a professional. Sometimes it isn't possible to fully ''get over'' the past but everyone is a work in progress.

What does NOT help is when people invalidate us and compare pain.