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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25
My mom is just...I just can’t with her. I offered to help her donate her books, but no, she “has to go through them”. And she’s still buying ****! No point In cleaning out if she’s just going to build her hoard again. She seems to be on the verge of a mental breakdown, but honestly I can’t remember a time when she wasn’t! It’s always something, and she refuses to get any help.
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Originally Posted by BethRags
My mother was a hoarder, too. For my entire life I heard those words: I have to go through them. My entire life, besides her severe and untreated mental illness I had to deal with her obsession with her boxes of stuff she "had to go through."
Well, when she died she left towers of boxes of crap she never "went through." And my sisters and I threw it all out or donated it. Sad.
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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25
When my mother dies everything goes straight in the trash.
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Right there with ya, wfc and BethRags. It's ridiculous. "Have to go through"? Boy, those are words I heard far too many times as well. She's 81 now and I dread having to deal with all that CRAP. But I told my sister I would help when the time came (especially as my sister's been dealing with her, and I've not spoken to my mother in a decade). Going to have to get one of those huge dumpsters. Probably that won't even do it.
Went to work today. Kept the door locked except for appointments so as to have more control over the smoke coming in the door.
Things are going alright. I do think I'm dealing with a low grade depression as I just don't care about doing much. There's no denying that covid and the smoke are not helping matters. "Collective consciousness of despair" I think you called it BethRags. Good description. Everything just feels like such an endurance contest. It's just so wearing.
Hugs, my peeps!
