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Originally Posted by Have Hope
@ divine1966, my understanding is his issue is she wore a more revealing dress out with her girlfriends than the dress she wore on their honeymoon. He is not upset about her going out with girlfriends. He is upset about the reoccurring issue that his wife frequently seeks and needs sexual attention from other men. This has been an ongoing issue since his first thread. I never got that he was controlling of her in any way or that he doesn't fully trust her. What I get is that it is hurtful and insulting that she needs all this other attention and does things to get it from men, and particularly single men when she is a married woman. And the dress on her evening out with girlfriends is just another instance of this. |
Yes, this is exactly the problem I keep running in to. Like you said, this particular instance by itself sounds like I'm being whiney, but it is a recurring problem and it isn't being addressed at all. If you want to go out with the girls and wear something cute, even a little sexy to feel good and you were classy about it, great. But her attitude and past actions have shown that this is not her intent. She was all excited running back and forth from the bathroom to the bedroom trying on outfits and doing makeup and didn't even see me and then runs ot the door and didn't even ask me how she looks or tell me she's going to miss me or any details about the night, just dinner with the girls and bye bye. Then she doesn't come back 'till 12:30. I know I shouldnt have, but I looked on her phone the next day and found out she went to a bar. It wasn't a restaraunt. Which again, in my logical brain, I'm guessing because of corona restrictions they probably closed the dance floor, but still. I have had this happen so many times, that it continues to inflame my anxieties. She could have said, "they probably have no dancing, but either way we are just going to sit at a table and have a couple drinks, I might be late but I'll keep in touch. I know it gives you anxiety so I'll touch base with you later." Nothing. None of that. Just gotta go, bye!