my boys are grown 23, 25, 28... they have been having unsupervised visits with their dad since they were 18... what opened this up again is that my oldest son is expecting his first child... he is living with his dad so he could go back to school... i am very proud of him for taking this step... school has always been really hard for him. my youngest son got married on 4/6 and his dad refused to go to the wedding because his daughter... my boys younger sister was going to be there... he has never seen her... they divorced before she was born... my son was extremely hurt by his father not attending and has cut communication with him... so it's my guess that to justify his actions he is placing the responsibility on me... nothing new there... he knows i won't defend myself because i don't want to hurt our sons... my t was at the wedding and he had a very close relationship with the boys when they were little... my son started bombing me with emails asking me if i was telling the truth and he called my t... my t told him that before he assumed that i had lied he should get the whole story and ask his dad some questions... they are going to meet on monday for lunch and my t thinks he should read the police report... i don't know if he will show him on monday... but i gave him my permission to tell him what happened during the time of the investigation... he agrees that my son doesn't need to know what happened to me... but i am not sure how he can do that without him finding out... or thinking i am hiding something if it's blacked out... my oldest son has always directed his anger at his dad at me... but hasn't ever been able to direct it at his dad... my t says that's because i am the safe parent... and he knows i will love him no matter what... anyway it's a mess.... thanks for listening...lyn