Honestly, maybe you should plan a night out with the guys to the bar and get dressed up REALLY nice, maybe treat yourself to something new and put on colone and be happy to go out the door like she has. Maybe it would be good for her to see how it feels. I know that's not your style either and maybe you are too dependable for her and she takes advantage of that too much. And SHE would have to stay home for the children and wonder what you are doing especially since you looked so damn good when you rushed out the door.

(you don't have to go to a bar either, but instead go to an AA meeting). It sounds like she has gotten so used to you being so dutiful that she takes you for granted.