It happened to me, also. I told my mother, and as far as I know, she didn't report it to the police. It changes your life, but I haven't let it stop me from living a joyful life. I like the idea of restorative justice.....restorative justice says....this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. The letter is for YOU. I told my mother that if I ever saw the molester I would tell him off. She said, it doesn't matter because he is dead. She was ignorant..

Try to remember that the blame and shame belongs to the criminal, NOT to you. You were innocent. In other words, "is this my stuff"? The answer is NO. Writing a letter can be helpful, and keeping a journal also.