Thank you so much! “Very appropriate” eases my fear that I made things worse by voicing my opinion and concern. I do believe it would have been wrong to ignore that he said he was triggered by her being there and was hiding out in his room alone with the door shut because she is there.

It’s hard because I want to protect him, and he says “thank you for your concern”
I understand, and I believe in him, but I guess I have been in the place where I isolate and ignore my needs for others benefit, because I’m “strong” or “nice” too. And therefore I know it’s not the healthiest place to be.

Finding the appropriate lines for supporting, stepping in, giving space and trusting...it’s a lot to know and get right, and sometimes I am sure there is no room for error.

It seems like I’m beating myself up, but really I’m afraid something bad will happen, and that I could have should have done or not something to prevent it.

He knows I’m here for him 24/7 and I have offered help however he needs.
I hope he reaches out if needed.

Another thing that bothers me is his doctor for the last several years that saw him for depression and prescribed his antidepressants passed away suddenly, and I believe it was suicide.

Ugh