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Originally Posted by Littlepalm
Hi-
I am so hurt and feel very devalued. I was dating someone over 8 years. There are many facets to this story. He cheated on me last summer & I accidentally guessed at it..I was right, he was shocked I found out. I told him pick her or me, if it’s is me, our reconciliation required certain things-STD Tests, no contact with this woman, etc. At first he told me there was no sex, but admitted to it a month later.
We were trying to reconcile fall 2019-March 2020.. he stated he had zero contact with this woman. He was at my house for many weekends...they were tough, I was so hurt that he cheated and betrayed me.
Fast forward To July, I look on his Facebook profile and there is a pic of him & the woman he cheated on me with...no text, no phone call, no voicemail, nothing....We are in our 50s....
I do not understand why someone would behave this way.
Opinions please. Thanks
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I have a stance on cheating -- once someone cheats, I don't think they should ever be given a second chance. For me, that's it. Once is enough. and I will never be able to trust the person ever again.
So, this man? He showed you once before that he is not trustworthy. He showed you his willingness to cheat once, and then even worse, let you find out about it again in the most horrible way. His character is extremely flawed.
You deserved far better than how he treated you.
What you can learn from this is that once someone shows you their true colors earlier on, trust and believe what you are witnessing. You wanted to give him another chance, which is admirable, but the saying is true that "once a cheater, always a cheater".
This man's character is SO low. You yourself would never treat someone this way, I am sure.
So.. the other gemstone to take away? Thank the Lord you are no longer dealing with such a person of such low character. And he will certainly mistreat this new woman, just as he did you, and he will most likely cheat on her as well.
The pain of his betrayal will pass in time...... give it time, and know that you deserve someone of much stronger character who is HONEST and TRUSTWORTHY. This man is not.
Hugs to you.