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Originally Posted by Littlepalm
Thank you Have Hope,
I agree with you.... When I found out, I should have stated, “it is over”. When I found out, before I called him..my heart started bouncing, i my stomach felt as if it was in my throat....horrible physical feelings...a trauma bond....
My mind had a flashback to when I was a child, yearning for my mother’s love....I have childhood trauma isssues....which I am trying to work on...
Yes, he showed me quite clearly how little he thought & felt of the eight years we spent together.
I am lucky I will never see or speak to him again..
Hugs,
LP
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I have found that I have accepted far less than I deserve at times because of that same trauma bond and desire to be loved.
Once we heal that trauma bond, it's easier to not put up with any of the crap and nonsense.
So, I had someone once who cheated on me years ago, and I found out because I went through his phone one day. Then, after we broke up, he tried to cheat on HER with ME months later and wrote me love letters while he was with her. Well, she stuck with him even though I mailed those love letters TO HER, and she married him years later. Now, I find out (through him - he contacted me again years after being with her), that he was STILL cheating on her. And to this day? I am sure he is cheating on her, even after marrying her.
So, once a cheater, always a cheater. These types of men are despicable. It's a disgrace.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this kind of pain after 8 years of being together. But yes, be thankful you didn't marry him and find this out after more years together. I always try to find a silver lining, in every situation.
Hugs back to you.
