Hey!
Thanks for starting this topic. I'm going to read every post and suggestion with interest because I have so much trouble with this issue even though I've been married to the same kind man for 50 years.

People here are right. It does stem from your lack of belief that you are a great enough person to able to hold someone you think is valuable. In my younger days, at least three of the men I dated cheated on me, one of them, I was actually engaged to. It only served to reinforce what I already held to be an absolute truth... that I wasn't enough for anyone.

I struggle with it to this day, though my husband has never strayed--and believe me, I'm pretty vigilant. But I've always been afraid. One thing that has helped me a lot, is actually pausing and looking at my husband and knowing that he has too much character to hurt me that bad. Maybe you could try something like that.

I hope you can find a way to believe in your own intrinsic worth. I haven't been able to get all the way there, but I've had a lot going on, lol. Good luck and all my best wishes.
--Friday