Wifey and I have started making 10-item lists per day of items that she and I would both like to see accomplished. Some of it it basic. She'd like me to shower. She thinks that will help me. I want coffee. She'd like me to take on the dishwasher etc. How I get it done is my job. We set up two days at a time, re-meet and set up the next two days. Part of this is because I'm not pulling my own about myself and about the house. Part of it is that I want to be better and get better. I don't think there's anything new, but I think the tangibility of being able to cross them out is a big part of the process. I hope it help @bpcyclist.