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Originally Posted by MisterPaul
Hold up. How did I hurt that guy? I was there for him. I kept his secrets. I listened to him and gave advices that usually worked. Now he hit me with no empathy (how are your relationships instead of you should get a gf?) and as I got anxious, he f**king smiles.
In return he gets discarded. I know it's extereme but I have no mercy for people who rubs that surface of my life because I've been though a lot. I protect my old wounds. I'm not gonna go after him. I'll just push him out of my life, no contact, that's all. The only brutal thing is maybe not giving him any chance to explain but that's just me. No second chances when it's that big.
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Well now you are giving us a little more context. It sounds like, with this man in particular, he was taking pleasure in you not having a GF right now. I can understand wanting to distance from someone who, rather than celebrate the good things, points out what THEY think it lacking. It does sound to me like you're working on health relationships because you said you weren't trying to have a gf right now for those reasons of not wanting to hurt others (or at least that's what I interpreted).
Again, I really urge you to talk to your therapist, who will know all the details. I think it's fair to decide whether or not someone brings joy into your life as a friend or if they are tearing you down.
NPD dx aside, we have all walked away from friendships that were tearing us down before. I think, for me, I'm just saying that make sure it's because of that and not a manipulation tactic. It doesn't sound like that from what you've shared.