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Originally Posted by BethRags
WOW, just WOW! That chick has HANG-UPS! I'm in shock, too. "Not a good therapist" is putting it mildly. She sounds like a seriously screwed-up woman.
I think it's essential to discuss the trauma you've been through with that b-itch with your new therapist. Never mind what the former weirdo thinks. Seriously, what a poor example of a therapist. She should not be in practice.
I am so, so sorry you've been betrayed like you have.
Something else comes to my mind. I've been married for over 30 years. Many years ago I worked with a woman who was lesbian and she and I fell in love. We never had a sexual relationship, but the love was there, just the same.
Over the 2 years I've been in therapy with my T I have had frequent romantic feelings about her. She's nurturing and sexy, in a wise and earthy way.
I recognize that there is some part of me that is attracted to women, maybe not even sexually, but on a profound emotional level. Or maybe it can be sexual. I'm not sure.
If you're comfortable with it, you might consider exploring your romantic and possibly sexual feelings with your new therapist. |
Thank you BethRags for your support and understanding. I meet with my new therapist this week.
I wrote an email to my former therapist, that I won’t copy in full here. In summary, I told her that she handled my transference badly, that she acted like I did something improper that victimized her, quoted other therapists from various websites who said that transference was normal and a bad reason to terminate therapy, and that terminating my therapy felt like I was punched in the gut by someone I trusted.
She responded as follows:
"I want to acknowledge your email, and note how sorry I am to hear your anger and frustration towards me. I made the very difficult decision to terminate our therapy relationship after engaging in weeks of personal reflection, seeking guidance from the American Psychological Association, and through multiple consultations with practicing clinical professionals. - I truly wish you all the best."
After I told her about my feelings, we had two more sessions, and terminated me at the last one. It was 3 weeks from the time I told her until the session in which she ended my therapy. Kind of an exaggeration to say "weeks of personal reflection." And I’m kinda stunned that she went to so much effort to deal with the feelings of little ol’ me!