Ya, my biggest enemy is my own mind. She still yells and rants. It's lessened while we are in therapy, probably because she knows she will have to be somewhat accountable. I definitely let her mean words get to me sometimes. The other day, I forgot to tell her about plans my ex has for the kids and she read my phone and then asked if I was ever going to tell her about what my ex said. In the moment, I let her unkind words sink in and I panicked and lied and told her I didn't see the message. I thought about it later. I don't have to tell her ANYTHING if I choose not to! If she is so concerned, she could have asked. She is also welcome to look at my phone anytime. I have nothing to hide. So why should I feel bad that I forgot? Why should I lie to try and avoid conflict? I told her about 5 minutes later that I lied and said sorry because I hate that feeling, especially over something so petty. Of course she gets mad about it and tells me to go lie to someone else. One more example of how I can own my issues and apologize, yet she can't admit she flew off the handle about it. I'm definitely bringing that one up in therapy. B.S!